5 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Got Married

When I was first married, my husband and I made many mistakes that ultimately made our marriage very messy from the start. As many of you know, I’ve chronicled many of the messes we’ve made over the 25 years of our marriage here on this blog. But today I want to focus on the positive […]

Father Issues, God Issues, Husband Issues

Let me just say upfront … I have father issues. Of course, that translates into issues with “men” as well, which might explain the title of this blog! But the fact is that my father issues create another drawback … my father issues affect my relationship with God.   I’ve done Bible studies, read books […]

Resurrecting Love

Remember the part of the marriage vow that says, “Till death do us part”? In our vows, we are referring to a physical death and know that this ensures our promise is for a lifetime.   But what if it is only in our dying … to ourselves that we really find each other? It’s […]

When My Love Isn’t Enough

“…I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of […]

Where to Find the Perfect Christmas Gift

Christmas can be a time of joy and laughter … But for many couples and families, it is a time of stress, fighting and over-extending. Not only do you have the pressures of buying fun and frugal Christmas presents for all of your family and friends, but you also have the pressures of cooking, cleaning, […]

Words that Transform Our Marriages

It’s interesting that the challenge this week on Faith Barista is to finish this sentence “In God’s Heart, I am …” … because I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. I’ve been thinking about it, first of all, because I need to internalize how God feels about me. I don’t always feel “loved by […]

You Complete Me . . . Not!

Is it such a terrible thing to say that my husband doesn’t complete me? I recently picked up a book that I still hope is a great marriage book by Mort Fertel – Marriage Fitness. I plan on reading it and a few others on my upcoming vacation. But when it came in the mail […]

Drowning in Messy Feelings

One of the main reasons messy marriages get messy is because of messy feelings. When my husband, Gary, does something that hurts my feelings—I mean, really hurts my feelings—then my whole world can turn upside down in an instant. It’s like the man that I thought I loved, is now suddenly the man I can’t […]