“9 Thoughts that Can Change Your Marriage” Giveaway and Linkup

I was excited to receive and read Sheila Gregoire’s latest marriage book, 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage. If you don’t know Sheila, then you need to get to know her! She blogs at To Love, Honor and Vacuum and in her characteristic transparent and witty style, she used 9 pat answers as a […]

Why Can’t I Run to My Mom? SJT Video

In today’s “Sloppy Joe Time” video, I’m talking about an unhealthy practice I had early in my marriage. I was still running to my mother’s arms, when I should’ve been running to God’s and never leaving my husband’s! Can you relate? I hope you’ll click on the video below to see what I discovered and […]

Who Should Apologize First?

I hope you’ll take two and a half minutes to watch this first of many videocast installments here at MM on “Sloppy Expectations in Marriage.” Part of the reason I’ve decided to add videos is:  I’m still having arm/hand/tendonitis issues and typing adds to that problem. Creating a video is less “typing-intensive.” I’ve always wanted […]

Never Asked My Spouse to Help and Wedded Wed Link Up!

While I’m taking a four week break from blogging, I’m sharing some older posts from way back in MM’s vault. This was my very first post that kicked-off a series I dubbed the “Top 10 Mistakes I Made in Marriage.” It was published way back on October, 10 of 2010! Whoa, can’t believe it’s been […]

5 Texts You Should Never Send Your Spouse

This past weekend, my husband and I had the privilege of attending our church’s annual marriage retreat. Our guest speaker was Doug Fields,* an amazing communicator and family man. He reminded us that technology has connected us with our world, while very often disconnecting us from our spouses. So in that spirit, here’s my advice […]

Consumed with Life = No Margin

There’s this scary idea that what’s most important about our lives will be captured by a “dash” on our tombstone … he/she was born in 1960/70/80 something, followed by the dash before the date of death. The real dilemma is, we all want to make our “dash” count, right? Photo by Jo Naylor But the […]

How Making My Point Can Be Dangerous

photo by oe2azm Years ago when our kids were small, we had a habit of letting our tempers take us to heights of hostility and summits of stupidity. What made this “argumentative mountain climbing” worse was, we had our “kids strapped to our backs” as we clung to the jagged edges of our egos, anchoring […]

5 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Got Married

When I was first married, my husband and I made many mistakes that ultimately made our marriage very messy from the start. As many of you know, I’ve chronicled many of the messes we’ve made over the 25 years of our marriage here on this blog. But today I want to focus on the positive […]

Watch Out for the "Stupid Stage"

Last week my husband and I attended the AACC Marriage America conference in Orlando. Gary Thomas, author of Sacred Marriage and leader of one of the tracks I’d selected, discussed a concept that stood out for me. In Thomas’ class he outlined the seasons of marriage. The first of the marital seasons he aptly named, […]

Giving My Husband the "Royal Treatment"

I’ve shared this before—I’m a genealogy geek. And I’ve snagged some interesting findings that reveal a lot about me, my husband, and ironically, our relationship. Here’s some of what I’ve found … I have several very distant lines that lead to royalty in my family. I’m a descendant of dozens of knights of England, several […]