What Men Say Motivates in Marriage And WW Linkup!

I’m back from Christmas vacation and I have to tell you, it’s been hard to get back into the swing of blogging again. Not that I don’t enjoy it, but currently I feel a bit burned out by it all, since my life at the moment has less margin than I would like for it […]

Feel like a Victim in Marriage?

I’m back from a much-needed vacation to continue the series on how our spouses can control us. Today’s focus is about feeling like a victim in a hopeless marriage. Sometimes people who are in a hurtful marriage for a very long time and have tried to combat the issues for as long as they’ve been […]

Merry Christmas, my friends!

I had planned on continuing in my series regarding the many ways we let our spouses control us with the post, “Feel Like a Victim in Marriage?” But because of the busyness of the holidays, I’m choosing to postpone that till the first weekend of January, 2016. I want to spend more time with my […]

Healthy Boundaries and Expectations for a Heart-to-Heart And Linkup!

Today I’m continuing in the series that was born out of the results from my Men and Openness survey by unpacking a bit more what a wife (or any spouse for that matter) needs to keep in mind in a heart-to-heart. If you want to encourage openness, establish healthy boundaries and realistic expectations. Click To […]

5 Steps for a Successful Heart-to-Heart with Your Wife And Linkup

Today, we’re going one step further in our discussion on “Men and Openness” by talking about … “talking about our feelings.” Based upon the Men and Openness survey I conducted recently, 53.45% of the men chose – “I don’t know how to articulate my feelings” as their second highest response to why opening up with […]

What Men Say About Opening Up And WW Linkup!

Today we are diving into the first of the responses from the “Men and Openness” survey. The first question I posed to men was: What makes opening up and disclosing your feelings to your wife difficult? Here are the results … 65.52% – I am afraid my wife will become upset by my disclosures. 53.45% […]

Messy Marriage’s 5-Year Blogiversary, Giveaway and WW Linkup

I can’t believe it’s been five years since I had this hare-brained idea that people might resonate with and find comfort in a blog that focused on messy marriage. God has used this blog to not only minister to, hopefully you, our readers, but to my own marriage as well. Sharing my story and other […]

When Storms Come in Marriage – WW Linkup

This past Saturday, my husband and I were excited to celebrate with our oldest son, Jordan, as he married his sweetheart, Sarah at beautiful Sorella Farm in Evington, Virginia. They had planned to have an outdoor ceremony followed by a grand reception in the nearby, decked-out barn. We knew that storms were a possibility on […]

A Newlywed’s Most Important Engagement and WW Linkup!

Exciting things are happening at the Steffaniak household! Our family is growing. No, I am most certainly not pregnant! 😉 But we truly are adding a sweet young lady to our mostly male brood! Yippee! Our oldest son, Jordan, popped the question to Sarah, his sweetie, on Saturday, January 17th. It was a foregone conclusion […]

Drive-Thru Marriage

One evening, not too long ago, my husband Bryan and I were on our way to our Small Group Bible Study.  Because Bryan had been caught in traffic which made him arrive home late from work, we had decided to pick up fast food and eat it in the car on the way to our […]