5 Ways Remorse Can Set You Free!

  In the U.S. we’re all gearing up to celebrate the 4th of July, our nation’s Independence Day. But there’s another type of freedom you may need to pursue and claim. Do you: Struggle to let go of the regrets you have regarding past “messes” you’ve made? Continually feel responsible for the pain and consequences […]

Trophy Wife

Written by Stacey Micklevitz Messy Marriage Team Writer I was recently pondering the concept of a Trophy Wife. Naturally, Donald Trump came to mind (though, let me be clear that I don’t see him as a “trophy husband”—he’s fooling NO one with that hair!). I am convinced that he is the poster child for all […]

4 Signs You’re on the Wrong Track

Have you ever gotten lost? In the pre-GPS days, you could end up really wandering way off course. Been there, done that! It’s a scary feeling, especially if your wandering leaves you in dangerous territory. Yep! Been there, done that too! In the many years I’ve been a counselor and life-coach, or for that matter, […]

10 Not-So-Helpful Things to Do for My Spouse

  Recently I wrote a post about the subject of helping my husband. You can refer to it here, if you’d like. But the idea got me to thinking … there are lots of ways I can help my husband but … There are also a lot of ways that I think I’m helping my […]

Is it Always Your Fault?

Do you feel like “the problem” spouse? by Chris Owens I know about this troubling dynamic, because I was the one blaming my spouse for the fault in our marriage—both verbally and in my head. I couldn’t escape the belief that my husband, Gary, was the problem! And if I could just “fix” him or […]

Does What I Feel Really Matter?

Today’s article is another “Share Your Story” contribution from blogger, Jennifer of Finding Fruit  cristee 12 (Flickr) It started weeks ago, a quick harsh word said to me. The word itself was not harsh, I don’t even remember what it was. But my body jumped up as if burned. I walked away not wanting to […]

Consumed with Making My Spouse Perfect

Back some 25 years ago, I didn’t marry the man that I now call my husband. No, I haven’t gotten a divorce and remarried a different man. I simply married the man I believed would change to suit my preferences and ideals. In hindsight, I can clearly see that was the … Wrong Approach!    […]

The Anatomy of Bitterness

I took an Anatomy class in college. BIG.MIS.TAKE First of all, with the help of my lab partner, I had to skin a cat. Ewww! Then I had to familiarize myself so thoroughly with every in and out (organs, bones, muscles, nerves) of that sad cat that I had formaldehyde-filled dreams at night! But what […]

Miserable in Marriage

Recently, I had a blog reader point out that my post, “Mess-Maker #1 – My Marriage Should Make Me Happy,” deals with the ineffective pursuit of happiness, but doesn’t address the person who is miserable in his or her marriage. After all, you’d think that a blog named Messy Marriage would directly address the person […]

My Messy Messages

Today we’re linked to Chrysalis, exploring the topic of communication –  Just the other day I decided to “communicate” my displeasure with something my husband had said earlier to me, by using sarcasm to strike back at him. Honestly, I thought it would get my message across in a “funny” way. After all, everybody loves a […]