Changing My Mind

I’ve been challenged in my thinking lately due to a book I’ve been reading and have referred to in many past posts, Forgiving and Reconciling by Everett Worthington. (Yes, I’m still reading it … and rereading it.) Silly me, I thought that I was simply going to learn about forgiveness and reconciliation from this book—a […]

Romantic Nonsense

A few months ago I ran across some of my old journals from the early days in my marriage. As I scanned over the many pages, I found a statement that reflected something of a watershed moment in my young marriage. I wrote . . .   “I thought love was supposed to be easy—to […]

Naggy McNaggerson, Party of One…

Written by frequent contributor: Stacey Micklevitz   How easy it is to be critical! It’s human nature. Honestly, our spouses practically invite us to criticize, correct, and redirect. Seriously speaking, when opportunities present themselves, I find myself struggling against the urge to let my husband, Bryan, know when he is wrong. My situation is not […]

My Lazy Ways in Marriage

My husband would never accuse me of being a couch potato, but when it comes to my marriage, sometimes I can be a little lazy. I guess that’s because of the “Law of Lock-Down.” Never heard of it? Well, it’s when you have “locked-down” your mate in the bonds of holy matrimony and you never […]

Marriage Mistake #8 – Let My Spouse’s Bad Behavior Control Mine

The Mistaken Game My husband and I have had a game that we carried from our childhood into our marriage. No, we don’t play “Ken and Barbie” into all hours of the night, nor do we hold “who can belch the loudest?” contests either! You see, it’s the age old game of “Tit for Tat.” […]

Marriage Policy – Never Compete with Your Spouse

My husband and I have certain marriage policies that we keep in place in order to protect and enhance our marriage. One of those policies is to never compete with each other. Unfortunately, this wasn’t always the case. In fact, one of our first “competitions” took place while we were in college. We held a […]

Confessions of a Messy Mate

Welcome friends! Today I am launching my Messy Marriage blog! And I feel like the best way to start this blog off is to: Revisit the day I woke up to the reality of my messy attitude.  It started with a typical day for me. I was with my husband throwing complaints around the room […]

Marriage Mistake #5 – Negative Focus

Have you ever tried to tend a garden? If you don’t have the plastic weed barrier firmly in place, then you might as well resign yourself to a long-term battle with your finger on the trigger of Round-Up—aiming to kill.  In the same way that weeds can take over a flower garden, I allowed “weeds” […]