A Way to Measure Your Progress

The other day I was at Walmart. (Imagine a big, lumbersome sigh after that sentence!) I must confess it’s not my favorite place to shop—especially since our small town store is being turned into a supercenter. Yay, us! I won’t go into all that ticks me off when I’m inside the doors of the world’s […]

Feel Alone in Marriage or Life?

  I’ve been scouring over my journals from my very messy marriage years because I’m working on writing the book – Messy Marriage {Yay!}. And as I’ve done so, I’ve recalled how alone and alienated I often felt during those years {Not so Yay!}. In a messy marriage it’s easy to feel that you and […]

5 Texts You Should Send Your Spouse

1. I liked the way you … yesterday. They say it takes seven positive statements to make up for one negative. So we need to be sharing encouraging words with our spouses whenever we get the chance. And since most of us don’t see our spouses during the day, what a lovely way to brighten […]

10 Not-So-Helpful Things to Do for My Spouse

  Recently I wrote a post about the subject of helping my husband. You can refer to it here, if you’d like. But the idea got me to thinking … there are lots of ways I can help my husband but … There are also a lot of ways that I think I’m helping my […]

Spiritual Practices that Save My Marriage

I could go on and on about how to communicate better, or learn to forgive, or make time to really connect with your spouse, but that’s simply icing on the cake. The bedrock of my marriage has not been being the best wife, but being a fully devoted follower of Christ. With that said, here […]

Extending Grace to Extended Family

by tinaxduzgen With the Thanksgiving holiday just next week, my mind has wandered toward the many “extended family” messes that often erupt this time of year. I have to say that I’m so grateful to have in-laws who have blessed me and not tested me when the holidays have rolled around. Unfortunately, I do remember […]

10 Questions to Ask When Depressed

Living in a messy marriage for an extended period of time, often leads to depression … That’s because, whenever we feel we’re unable to escape an overwhelmingly frustrating or oppressive situation, depression has a tendency to develop. It may not be the “marriage” per se that has been the trigger, but a variety of factors […]

Are You Motivating or Manipulating Your Spouse?

Isn’t it always easier to see what our spouse needs to do than what we need to do?  I can easily get caught up in this problem, since I’m also a counselor and life-coach. I can diagnose an unhealthy attitude or action, and step in with my “trusty counselor’s voice” to bring my husband down […]

Are You Too Close to Your Spouse?

What? Did I read that right? Can I really be too close to my spouse? Maybe that’s what you were thinking when you read my title. You might’ve also wondered … What kind of marriage blog is this, anyway? The author doesn’t even want us to get close to our spouses! I’m outta here! But […]

Changing My Mind

I’ve been challenged in my thinking lately due to a book I’ve been reading and have referred to in many past posts, Forgiving and Reconciling by Everett Worthington. (Yes, I’m still reading it … and rereading it.) Silly me, I thought that I was simply going to learn about forgiveness and reconciliation from this book—a […]