3 Important Questions to Ask when Holiday Stress Looms

Nearly twenty years ago, I journaled about a holiday moment in my life that was filled with more stress than love. On this particular occasion, I was worn-down by trying to do too much decorating, shopping, cleaning, cooking and entertaining. At that time, my husband wasn’t as involved in helping me with those kinds of […]

4 Ways Satan Divides Us in Marriage (Linkup and Giveaway!)

Today, I’m continuing to unpack my series on spiritual warfare in marriage—focusing today on how Satan loves to divide us as couples when we pursue good and godly things. Whenever the Enemy can’t divide us from God, he goes the roundabout way by dividing us as couples, which often divides us from the Lord when all is […]

Husbands Confess How Pride Made Their Marriage Messier

I’m excited to unveil the first of the Confession Videos where husbands answer the question: “What prideful attitude or action have you done in your marriage that has made it messier?” In my experience, pride has been a huge factor in hurting my own marriage, not to mention the marriages of those I counsel. So […]

Video ‘Confessions of a Messy Mrs.’ on Pride

I’m excited to get back to vlogging with a new series that includes confessions from nine different “wives’” on how pride made their marriages messy or at least messier. Don’t worry all of you “Misters” out there! I will get to you next time with my sidekick and partner in life, Gary, who will be our […]

‘Writing’ Prayers—Gaining Perspective in Marriage And Linkup

I’m continuing in my series: “Back to School—7 Lessons on Learning to Love Well When the Winds of Marriage Grow Colder”—by talking today about lesson #2 on “Writing.” Be advised: this isn’t just writing for the sake of improving our penmanship or literary skills. It is all about a valuable marriage tool available to us […]

What Extending Grace Looks like in Marriage – Plus Linkup

One of the things that has often confounded me is, when do I extend grace? Is it all the time? And what does grace even look like, especially in marriage? I think of grace like forgiveness—letting something go. After all, the Lord certainly has let go of the need to punish me for my sin—dying […]

3 Ways God’s Word Can Heal Your Marriage And Linkup

Today I want to talk about the connection I see between my times of study in God’s word and how it heals and helps my marriage. As a counselor and life-coach, I’ve gathered an arsenal of communication and relationship strategies and principles over the years that have been very beneficial to my marriage. I apply […]

Are You Pushing or Encouraging Your Mate Spiritually?

Most of you know that I’m a pastor’s wife, but that doesn’t mean I’m not guilty of pushing my hubby spiritually when it seems like he’s not pursuing God with the same intensity as I am. Of course, sometimes he feels that way about me too. 😉 We all go through seasons when our spiritual […]

Discussing Sticky Issues with Your Mate Without Getting Stuck

If you’re like me, you’ve often let your mouth fly wide open to reveal the manipulative and prideful intentions behind an effort “to discuss” a sticky issue. Ugh! You’re thinking that your words will bring clarity and understanding for your mate (cue the sound of angels singing from heaven). But all you really offered your […]

What I Learned from a Fight with My Hubby And Linkup

Toward the end of my month-long reorganizing, repairing and purging of my house in June, my husband and I had an argument. Mind you, it wasn’t related to the hard work that we were doing on the house. But it was a doozy of a misunderstanding on both our parts. I won’t go into all […]