Shouldn’t the kids come first? SJT Video

In this “Sloppy Joe Time” video, I talk about the sloppy expectation I had when my husband and I began to have children. I thought that I could let the overwhelming love for my kids become the focus of my marriage. Click on the video below to find out what I learned, as well as, […]

Closer Than Ever Before – Guest Post by John and Wendy Godfrey & Linkup!

Keeping your marriage strong as you grow older doesn’t have to be difficult. There are a number of great things you can do to make sure you and your spouse are more in love than ever before. By focusing on your marriage and making it a priority, you’ll find that the joy of being married […]

Dating in Marriage and Linkup!

I was honored when Steve Pare, of Spousedates, asked me if my husband Gary and I would share about the ways we make dating a priority in our marriage. If you’re interested, I’d love it if you’d hop over to Steve’s place where you can read more about our story. I also want to emphasize […]

The Bigger Picture and Linkup!

It’s hard to believe but exactly a year ago today my husband and I were smack-dab in the middle of the trip of a lifetime to England and Wales. It was our 25th (plus one!) anniversary trip and it was everything and more that we had hoped for! Which made me feel as if God […]

12 Ways We Push Our Spouses Away and WW Link Up!

Very often we push our spouses away without even knowing we’re doing it on a conscious level. Sadly, I’m just as guilty of clinging to many of these “12 Ways” as you might be. In fact, I’d be better off telling you which ones I don’t struggle with, than to name the long list of […]

Realistic Expectations and WW Link Up!

I’ve just finished a forgiveness series that I’m planning on turning into a free ebook for my current and new subscribers. Yay! 🙂 But in order to do that and to tackle the more-than-I-can-properly-describe-long-list-of-to-do’s, I must take time away from blogging. That doesn’t mean I’m leaving Messy Marriage without a weekly post—actually “repost.” During my […]

Redeeming the Year of the Broken-Down

I keep promising things I can’t really deliver. That is SOOOO not like me! I’ve always prided myself in my follow-through, but my life continues to be just.too.crowded. I keep thinking of the iconic scene in “I Love Lucy” where Lucy and Ethel were working in a chocolate factory and the speed is just too […]

Wedded Wednesday and Finding Rest

My husband and I have had the joy of attending the Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Marriage and Leadership Conferences at Peter and Geri Scazzero’s church, New Life Fellowship this past week . And this week we’re enjoying the sites and sounds of treck up the New England coast. This photo was taken at Boston Harbor where […]

My Messy Life! Can You Relate?

I’m struggling and I don’t know where to begin to tell you exactly how or what variety of issues I’m facing. Thankfully, my marriage is not one of those issues at the moment. That said, please realize that we still have WAY far to go and have many messy moments that keep us humble and […]

Letters that Need to be Written

For eleven years, since 2003, I’ve written individual letters to my sons and husband. Often the letters chronicled what happened throughout the past year along with some words of encouragement and love from me to each of them. I don’t really know how much these letters mean to my family, especially my sons. I think […]