Can ‘Not Apologizing’ Motivate My Mate? and WW Linkup!

Today I’m continuing my series on why I didn’t apologize to my mate, by tackling the third justification I mentioned two weeks ago. {To see that post click here.} “I believed that because his sins seemed so much worse and more glaring than mine, that by confessing, I would only be pacifying him. In doing […]

Did I make you mad? SJT Video

In this “Sloppy Joe Time” video, I’m tackling the need for perspective whenever my spouse is irritated, grouchy, feeling bad or whatever, but it has nothing to do with me. In those times, I tend to get too close to the situation and try to take responsibility for what is my husband’s responsibility and problem. […]

How I was a Right-Fighter And WW Linkup!

I’m continuing to unpack why I didn’t confess my faults and sins to my husband in the early days of my marriage, focusing today on . . . Distortion Two – “If I’m right, I shouldn’t have to apologize!” It goes like this . . . If I’m saying the right things Or If I’m […]

3 Reasons I Did Not Confess to My Mate And WW Linkup!

There are many reasons why I didn’t confess my faults and sins to my husband in the early days of my marriage, but three of them stand out more than some of the others. I thought that confessing “I was wrong” about something to my husband was the equivalent of handing him the keys to […]

Are You Too Familiar with Your Spouse? And WW Linkup!

There’s something that’s sadly accurate about the old saying, “familiarity breeds contempt”—especially in marriage! When you live in close proximity to another human being for any length of time, you will inevitably feel friction and irritation at some point . . . especially if your spouse is abusive or insensitive in any way. But even […]

What to Do When Your Spouse Won’t Change and WW Linkup!

With the new year, comes the fall-out from the holiday season. We often overeat, over-drink, overwork and overdo it in just about every conceivable way during that time of year. So January is the prime time to regroup and commit to new and positive changes that bring relief to our out-of-shape lives. I’m mostly a […]

One Attitude that Improves the Success of Your Marriage {and Linkup!}

I can see the opposite of “this attitude” coming toward me a mile away as a counselor and life-coach! That’s because it’s very easy to see in others, not so easy to identify in yourself. But allow me to ask one question that reveals the kind of attitude we need for success in marriage … Are you a “Giver” […]

Am I Your Soft Place to Fall? Video

Today, I’m sharing another video in our series of “sloppy expectations” in marriage. I explore the best way to respond to our spouses when we are confronted by how we’ve hurt them.     What thoughts typically run through your head when your spouse shares how you’ve hurt them?    What do you think could help you to look […]

Did I Marry Mr. Wrong? Video

  Hey there! I hope you’ll take a few minutes to watch my latest edition of “Sloppy Joe Time.” I’m exploring the sloppy expectation that marriage should be easy, and if it’s not, then we married the wrong person.     The success of marriage comes not in finding the “right” person, but in the […]

Never Asked My Spouse to Help and Wedded Wed Link Up!

While I’m taking a four week break from blogging, I’m sharing some older posts from way back in MM’s vault. This was my very first post that kicked-off a series I dubbed the “Top 10 Mistakes I Made in Marriage.” It was published way back on October, 10 of 2010! Whoa, can’t believe it’s been […]