3 Important Questions to Ask when Holiday Stress Looms

Nearly twenty years ago, I journaled about a holiday moment in my life that was filled with more stress than love. On this particular occasion, I was worn-down by trying to do too much decorating, shopping, cleaning, cooking and entertaining. At that time, my husband wasn’t as involved in helping me with those kinds of […]

My Plan for Dealing with Stress During the Holidays

With Halloween now out of the way, we run headlong into the busiest time of year, the holiday season. And even though the season culminates in the most beloved of days—Christmas—it often ends up causing more stress than inspiring joy, peace and love in our lives. In fact, I’m often tempted to be my “worst […]

What Christ’s Victory Means for My Marriage And 5 Steps to Embrace It! (Linkup)

I’m excited to have Lori Schumaker as my guest today while I’m on vacation. She is sharing her hope-filled insights for when our marriages are impacted by the schemes of the devil, as we continue in my spiritual warfare series. Please make her feel at home here by commenting below and sharing her wise words […]

Video of Wives Confessing Bad Habits in Marriage

I’m excited to be back with another video chronicling the confessions of several wives on one or two bad habits they bring into their marriages. These are all from friends of mine who share openly about their flaws, along with a few that are laugh-out-loud funny! I hope you’ll stick around to watch this 5 minute […]

How to Change Your Behavior so Your Marriage Can Improve (And Linkup)

Even though as a counselor I had to slog my way through lots of classes on Behavioral Psychology or Behavior Modification back in my old school days, I never really felt like behavior alone could create lasting or powerful change in marriage or relationships. However, that’s viewing things from the inside out, like Matthew 15:18 […]

Husbands Confess How Pride Made Their Marriage Messier

I’m excited to unveil the first of the Confession Videos where husbands answer the question: “What prideful attitude or action have you done in your marriage that has made it messier?” In my experience, pride has been a huge factor in hurting my own marriage, not to mention the marriages of those I counsel. So […]

Video ‘Confessions of a Messy Mrs.’ on Pride

I’m excited to get back to vlogging with a new series that includes confessions from nine different “wives’” on how pride made their marriages messy or at least messier. Don’t worry all of you “Misters” out there! I will get to you next time with my sidekick and partner in life, Gary, who will be our […]

‘Writing’ Prayers—Gaining Perspective in Marriage And Linkup

I’m continuing in my series: “Back to School—7 Lessons on Learning to Love Well When the Winds of Marriage Grow Colder”—by talking today about lesson #2 on “Writing.” Be advised: this isn’t just writing for the sake of improving our penmanship or literary skills. It is all about a valuable marriage tool available to us […]

Back to School—’Reading’ the Best Marriage Manual

I’m starting a new series called, “Back to School—7 Lessons on Learning to Love Well When the Winds of Marriage Grow Colder,” and what would school be without a good dose of “Reading, Writing, and Arithmetic”? So my first lesson involves “reading” . . . Reading the Bible, that is. There are so many great marriage […]

Are You Making Your Spouse Your savior?

I had a very messy marriage back in the day, and this was directly related to an even messier view of my identity. My lagging sense of self worth set me up for pursuing my husband as my savior, instead of pursuing my Savior as my Savior. Oh sure, I’d received Christ as my Savior […]