Ruins to Redemption And WW Linkup

Today we are honored to have my sweet friend Mary Geisen who blogs at Passage Through Grace as the host of WW this week, sharing her story of redemption after a failed marriage. I’m so excited that she’s been brave and gracious enough to talk about this, because I believe that divorce is often an […]

The Day I Walked Out on My Husband And WW Linkup

Today we have Aimee Imbeau who blogs at A Work of Grace with us sharing a guest post and hosting Wedded Wednesday while I am on vacation. I hope you’ll welcome her with oodles of comments and encouragement! 😉 I was devastated by his careless words spoken the night before as I walked out my […]

12 Ways Being Vulnerable Can Ruin Your Marriage

If you have been around Messy Marriage for any length of time, you know that I am a BIG proponent of vulnerability. Don’t get me wrong … I’m not flip-flopping on the issue of being vulnerable with who we are with our mates. That’s something we all should strive for! I just know that … […]

How to Combat Envy and Discontentment And WW Linkup

Today I’m going to unpack one more “character flaw” (grab the Character flaw inventory here) to serve as our example—“my envious and discontented ways” in our “Plank Hunt” series. It’s an ugly job, but somebody’s got to do it! 😉 Sin Triggers Sometimes there’s not a wound that causes a trigger. Sometimes it’s simply a […]

New Mind, New Marriage And WW Linkup

I’ve discovered over the years that one of the most potent ways to affect change in my heart, mind and marriage is through the process of “renewing my mind.” This is the ongoing work that the Holy Spirit does as I surrender my sinful ways to the Lord. Don’t be confused … This doesn’t happen […]

Can I point out your flaws? SJT Video

Today I’m back with another “Sloppy Joe Time” that addresses our tendency as faulty and defensive human beings to point the finger at our spouse’s flaws and “specks” rather than going on a “Plank Hunt” in our own lives. I’ve been there and done that and am here to say there’s a better way to […]

Plank Hunting – Shoot Down Your Excuses And WW Linkup

When I was about 11 years old, my mother did not ask me to help with getting the table set or cleaning up after a meal. I remember feeling guilty whenever I saw my older sister helping my mom with those tasks. Finally, my mom woke up to the fact that I was indeed old […]

Waiting on Your Mate to Change? And WW Linkup

Are you feeling like you’re tired of beating your head against a wall because your mate never changes? Does your spouse continue to deny the glaring issues that you see in his or her character and choices? Do you fear that if your mate doesn’t wake up soon your love and marriage may not survive? […]

Can I read your mind? SJT Video

Today I’m sharing a “Sloppy Joe Time” video that hits close to home because I put this sloppy expectation into action just a week or so ago. Honestly, I don’t think there will be a day when I won’t have to clean up some mess that I make in my marriage! 😉 I am a […]

Convince Your Spouse to Fight for Your Marriage

Sometimes it’s the most simple of suggestions that makes the biggest difference in life and marriage. Gary Chapman shares a bit of advice on influencing your marriage partner to reengage with you in marriage. If you are consistent with following Dr. Chapman’s wise counsel, I think you’ll find yourself and your spouse becoming more and […]