Have a ‘Scary Good’ Marriage? And Linkup!

It’s seems crazy to think about it, but the characters, as well as, the audience that clamors for more of the movie 50 Shades of Grey are really seeking the “scary good” that can only be experienced through the deep intimacy of a committed and safe marriage. God’s intimacy with us is represented by the […]

Will you meet ‘my’ needs? SJT Video

In this video, I share how anytime I seek my independence and focus on getting “my needs”* met in marriage, I create something of a “tug-of-war” with my husband. I offer a “work-in-progress” strategy that has changed the dynamic and atmosphere of my marriage drastically for the better whenever I use it! I hope you’ll check it out […]

The Communication Tool that Opens Hearts … and Linkup!

If you’ve been viewing over the past month or so my video podcasts, then you’re aware that I promised to tell you about a communication “tool” that my husband and I use to handle conflicts effectively. That tool is “reflective listening.” I’m going to provide detailed instructions on how to practice reflective listening in its […]

Need More Compassion?

Luke 10:25-37 Thoughts – In this reading, an expert in the law was trying to trip Jesus up with the question of … What must we do to inherit eternal life?* Jesus asked him what the law says, and the man quoted, … We are to love the Lord our God with all our heart, […]

How I Help My Husband … In His View

Today we are joining “Marriage Monday” to discuss the topic of  “helping our husbands” as referenced in Gen. 2:18.  I chose to interview the one I help, my husband, Gary.  Check out what he has to say on the subject …   What do you think God means when he created me to be your […]

Is it Always Your Fault?

Do you feel like “the problem” spouse? by Chris Owens I know about this troubling dynamic, because I was the one blaming my spouse for the fault in our marriage—both verbally and in my head. I couldn’t escape the belief that my husband, Gary, was the problem! And if I could just “fix” him or […]

Trying to Grasp Grace

My church has been doing a series that deals with God’s redemption in the midst of brokenness. And one of the main focuses has been on forgiveness. I’ve done a lot of study and spent a lot of time trying to understand and exercise forgiveness in my life and marriage over the years. That is, […]

Feeling Trapped in a Loveless Marriage?

Recently a comment caught my attention. First of all, because of the pain I was sensing in this person’s words, and second, because it got me to thinking about my own messy marriage journey. Here’s the comment to an article I posted about a spouse continually refusing to admit fault … My wife has behaved […]

5 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Got Married

When I was first married, my husband and I made many mistakes that ultimately made our marriage very messy from the start. As many of you know, I’ve chronicled many of the messes we’ve made over the 25 years of our marriage here on this blog. But today I want to focus on the positive […]

Full Circle

 Today’s article is another “Share Your Story” contribution from blogger, Julie Silander who writes at Greener Trees. Julie on her wedding day, 17 years ago This weekend we head to Johnson City (my hometown) for our oldest daughter’s wedding.  I know what some of you are thinking – I’m not old enough to have a […]