Increase Good Chemistry of Love in Marriage (And Linkup)

I’m continuing to unpack another lesson in my “Back to School” series by discussing today how I gained back the “chemistry” or feelings of love that had cooled when my marriage was at its messiest. I learned the hard way that what I do drastically impacts the way I feel in my marriage. Let me […]

4 Myths Every New Bride Should Know About Sex Plus Giveaway and Linkup

Today I’m excited to have my good bloggy friend Ngina Otiende as my guest, offering her perspective about some of the myths new brides cling to regarding sex, while countering them with the truths she’s discovered. And even though this is for the new bride, I think every wife out there can find valuable truth […]

No Sex, Please – We’re Jedi! Guest Post And FMTM

Today we’re diverting from our series to introduce a once-a-month publication on the sex issues and struggles we face in marriage with a guest post from a dear blogging friend, Andrew Budek-Schmeisser. Andrew shares vulnerably with us today about the relentless challenges that his PTSD has brought upon his marriage and marriage bed. I don’t […]

The Allure of the Illegitimate in Marriage

Today I’m continuing to unpack another way we can let our spouses control us with – “Choosing to have an affair or to look at pornography because you believe you’ve been deprived of ‘whatever’ in your marriage.” I have a sneaking suspicion that the spouses who need this message the most are not going to […]

12 Ways Being Vulnerable Can Ruin Your Marriage

If you have been around Messy Marriage for any length of time, you know that I am a BIG proponent of vulnerability. Don’t get me wrong … I’m not flip-flopping on the issue of being vulnerable with who we are with our mates. That’s something we all should strive for! I just know that … […]

“9 Thoughts that Can Change Your Marriage” Giveaway and Linkup

I was excited to receive and read Sheila Gregoire’s latest marriage book, 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage. If you don’t know Sheila, then you need to get to know her! She blogs at To Love, Honor and Vacuum and in her characteristic transparent and witty style, she used 9 pat answers as a […]

Is affection all that important in marriage? SJT Video

Howdy, Partner! It’s “Sloppy Joe Time” again! And today I’m talking about how easy it is for me to hang out at “Lazy Butt Ranch.” You see, I’ve had this sloppy expectation, hoping that my hubby will let me just coast on the amount of affection I give him—especially since we’re hitched! But marriage doesn’t […]

Trusting God with My Marriage And WW Linkup

Guest post by blogger – Robi Smith of Hopefulwifetoday.com It was three and a half years ago that I discovered my husband was addicted to pornography. I had been looking through his phone when I stumbled upon deleted still screens of images from porn websites. It came to me as a total shock. My husband […]

How Personal Passions Unite You as a Couple And WW Linkup

My husband and I have been working lately on a “dream that we share”—to lead marriage seminars together. We’ve done a lot of marriage small groups, as well as, mentoring and counseling through our church and some through my life-coaching, but we have only just recently put into action parts of that “shared dream.” I […]

Push Out of Your Comfort Zone And WW Linkup!

I mentioned during week one of the “Triple C” challenge that I wanted to gradually make each week in this challenge a bit more vulnerable—pushing you ever-so-slightly out of your comfort zone. So far I believe I’ve kept the challenges fairly safe and mild. But this week it’s time to ramp it up a tad. […]