The Best Marriage Book Ever

I love marriage books and have read my fair share of them over the years. They encourage me and challenge me in so many ways. They open my eyes and guide my choices into better directions. But the absolute BEST marriage book I’ve come across and continue to come back to is God’s word, the […]

Going for the Gold in Marriage?

The reason I was going through the driest, darkest and most discouraging time(s) in my marriage was because I was not doing something very crucial. Although I knew about this crucial focus, and in many ways completely believed that it was important and true, I did not let it consistently guide my thoughts, feelings and […]

How Grief Softens the Heart And Linkup

When I set about to organize, clean and prepare my house for market last month, I didn’t realize how this process of purging would hit so close to home . . . as in my heart. One of the monumental moments happened when my hubby took a couple of days to get away and prepare […]

The Workout Your Marriage Needs

When you’re discouraged in your marriage, you might be tempted to think that you need to: a)  Make dating a priority b)  Jazz up your sex life c)  Improve communication d)  Go to a counselor . . . . . . in order to get you and your spouse encouraged and your marriage back on […]

Purging Pride And Linkup is Back!

As many of you know, my hubby Gary and I have wanted to get our house ready to put on the market for quite sometime (we’re empty-nesters who desperately need to downsize). So I pulled away from “everything”—including blogging—for the month of June to get our house in shape for that big day that I […]

Settling this Matter Matters

I spend a lot of time here at Messy Marriage giving practical helps and tools for dealing with the messes in marriage, but the bottom line is that none of that matters if you don’t settle one thing! The one thing you must settle is Christ and what He did for you and me. #SaviorandLord […]

God’s Word is Worthy to be Studied Video

Ever wonder how studying God’s word can make a difference in your attitude or perspective? Well, I hope you’ll join me for a new study in the book of 1st Samuel using my “Worthy” method of Bible study that will help you discover how to read God’s word and glean it for all its worth! […]

My Husband’s View on Spiritual Leadership

I’m excited to add a new installment to my “Pick Hubby’s Brain” video series this week. We’ve had some camera issues (and quite frankly, are still having some issues to iron out) but am happy to offer some food for thought from my wise and witty hubby on the sticky subject of spiritual leadership. I […]

5 Signs of a ‘Grab-it Habit’

A lot of people, especially bloggers, choose one word or phrase to focus on for the year. I often do that, but don’t always talk about it. However, today I am briefly mentioning my one word—“release”—because it relates to a negative and persistent habit I’ve had in my life. Perhaps it is one you can […]

Resisting God because You Feel Pressured?

This week I’m tackling another way we let our spouses control us … “Resisting spiritual pursuits because your spouse is cramming them down your throat.” The spouse who has been pressured by his/her spouse in this way often “reacts” rather than “responds” to this situation. The distinction is an important one. A “reaction” is letting […]