Is my secret ‘safe’? Video

Yes, it’s that time of the week to grab your “cup of joe” and join me for another “sloppy joe time!” In this video, I talk about the way I allowed my angry thoughts about my spouse to go from a minor messy meditation to a festering monstrosity in no time!  I’d love it if you’d take less than 3 minute to watch! […]

14 Ways to Make Your Spouse Feel Loved

I’m interrupting my forgiveness series to shine a light, not necessarily on Valentines Day, but on how to make your spouse feel loved and special. I feel like that’s something we should be doing all throughout the year! Can I get an, Amen?! Here are some ideas {some I’ve tried, and some I hope to […]

Feel Alone in Marriage or Life?

  I’ve been scouring over my journals from my very messy marriage years because I’m working on writing the book – Messy Marriage {Yay!}. And as I’ve done so, I’ve recalled how alone and alienated I often felt during those years {Not so Yay!}. In a messy marriage it’s easy to feel that you and […]

5 Tips to Pray More Effectively for Your Spouse

Does this seem like a “no-brainer”?  Well, it is and it isn’t. I’m sure many of you are praying for your spouse and marriage daily, and that’s wonderful!Keep it up! But what if you could pray more effectively? Would you be interested in finding out how? Then read on …  Tip One – Thank God […]

When Your Spouse Refuses to Work on the Marriage

by tizoultro There are times when dealing with a spouse who refuses to work on your marriage can feel overwhelming, hopeless, and even paralyzing. It’s easy to feel like giving up or to believe that you have no way to improve your relationship when you’ve been in that kind of frustrating situation for any length […]

Do You Remember the Good Times?

Two years ago, I acted on God’s nudging to start a blog called Messy Marriage. I felt that He wanted me to write about all the ways life and marriage is and can be messy. But I also felt God wanted me to tell of how He is able to redeem the mess—making it into […]

Is My "Comfort Zone" Really Safe?

We are continuing on in our series about being “consumed” and today the focus is on being consumed with comfort … Photo by kennymatic As I write this post, I sit in my “Easy Chair” with legs perched atop my pillow-covered ottoman. The A/C is set to a comfortable 77 degrees, but if that’s not […]

Changing My Mind

I’ve been challenged in my thinking lately due to a book I’ve been reading and have referred to in many past posts, Forgiving and Reconciling by Everett Worthington. (Yes, I’m still reading it … and rereading it.) Silly me, I thought that I was simply going to learn about forgiveness and reconciliation from this book—a […]