Simple Date #8 – Fun and Inspiration by the Water

One of my all-time favorite activities to do on a date is to seek out a body of water of some kind to sit by and gaze at the beautiful hues that dance and shimmer on the surface. Of course, give me a vacation at the beach where I can sink my toes into the […]

Simple Date Idea #7 – Gratitude Walk

My husband and I have discovered that often one of the first “honeymoon phase” practices to go is expressing gratitude to each other. That means it’s often a distant image in the rearview mirror for most couples who’ve been married for any length of time. But oh how it improves the atmosphere and culture of […]

Simple Date #5 – Visit a Museum

My husband and I dedicate Fridays for a “date day” each week—trying to find at least one or two fun things to do and explore on that day. One of those “fun” things has been to go to a museum. I realize that a “museum” date idea might evoke a yawn or a roll of […]

Simple Date #4 – Movie Night Bedside

It’s often next to impossible to go on a date to the movies with your spouse when you don’t have enough money for expensive box office tickets, and/or you have small children with no reliable babysitter. Sometimes, you might even have a spouse who doesn’t like to go out in a public arena for various […]

How Enabling Your Mate Controls ‘You’

I want to discuss one more way that our mates can sometimes control us … through the ever-tempting avenue of enabling them. The reason I say this is “tempting” is probably because I feel this draw as a woman and mother perhaps a bit more than men generally do. Enabling actually springs up from a […]

Every Marriage Needs Adventure!

Some of my best memories of bonding with my family when I was a child were from the many vacations we took. Since my dad was a pastor, we often to traveled to wherever the SBC annual conventions were held, so I got to see so many great places across the U.S. I’m grateful that […]

A Wife’s Perspective on Men and Openness And WW Linkup!

In a couple of weeks I will be diving into a series on “Men and Openness” that’s based upon a survey that I’ve been conducting for several months now. But today I want to approach this sticky subject from my own feminine and often skewed (probably due to Estrogen) perspective. 😉 My husband and I […]

12 Ways Being Vulnerable Can Ruin Your Marriage

If you have been around Messy Marriage for any length of time, you know that I am a BIG proponent of vulnerability. Don’t get me wrong … I’m not flip-flopping on the issue of being vulnerable with who we are with our mates. That’s something we all should strive for! I just know that … […]

Can Prayer Change Us? SJT Video

It’s time for another “Sloppy Joe Time” and today I’m talking about how crazy it was for me and my hubby to think we could avoid a messy marriage without making a commitment to pray together daily. Find out what this one small act did for our marriage and what it can do for yours […]

“9 Thoughts that Can Change Your Marriage” Giveaway and Linkup

I was excited to receive and read Sheila Gregoire’s latest marriage book, 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage. If you don’t know Sheila, then you need to get to know her! She blogs at To Love, Honor and Vacuum and in her characteristic transparent and witty style, she used 9 pat answers as a […]