Why Fearing God is Needed for Your Trial and Messy Marriage

I know it’s been a while since I posted a “Sloppy Joe Time” and, FYI, I have two more in the queue! However, today I’m posting this very important video by Francis Chan that explains why the fear of God  is needed in life, especially if you’ve been in a long-standing trial. I know how […]

Feeling like a victim in a hopeless marriage? SJT Video

Sometimes a common dynamic or mindset develops when a marriage has been in crisis for a extended period of time. Click on the video below to find out what that mindset is in Beth’s latest “Sloppy Joe Time” – “Why won’t ‘you’ change?”   What have been some of the lies you’ve embraced when you’ve […]

‘Broken Together’ Video

I’m going to try and scale back here in order to spend a bit more time working on several book projects I have in the works. So I will be sharing my SJT videos every other week instead of weekly. But on the weeks that I discover a video that’s worth sharing, I’ll be sharing […]

Ignoring a problem in marriage? And WW Linkup!

If you don’t know this about me already, you must know that I am always looking at what the metaphor for life might be that God wants to teach me. The graphic above is a photo of the piece of glass that lodged downward into my left hand last Thursday. I was trying to get […]

Fear the Impact of Others?

Isaiah 46:4-5 and 9 (hover over to view verses) Thoughts taken from my devotional time. Today I want to look at another concern that we get caught up in life and in marriage … the fear that others can thwart God’s good purposes in our lives. There are so many people in our lives {and […]

What Does God Want to Give You in Your Losses?

As I face breast cancer, I’ve become extremely aware of the battle going on in my mind. When my focus is on the “loss” or “losses” I’m facing, I begin to feel, well, like a “loser.” But God has been so patient and kind with me and has gently reminded me that … He never […]

A Door I’d Rather Not Walk Through . . .

Has God ever taken you through a door that, if you were writing the story, would not be part of your preferred plotline? I trust God knows what He’s doing in my life. In fact, I think God has a plan for this “door” that I’m now being asked to walk through. I’m not saying […]

Desperate Marriage Myth #1

Recently I conducted a survey here at Messy Marriage and I can tell from the responses that many of you are in desperate situations and don’t know what to do about your marriage. It’s important to recognize four myths identified by Gary Chapman in his book, Desperate Marriages that often surface in our thinking when […]

Feel Alone in Marriage or Life?

  I’ve been scouring over my journals from my very messy marriage years because I’m working on writing the book – Messy Marriage {Yay!}. And as I’ve done so, I’ve recalled how alone and alienated I often felt during those years {Not so Yay!}. In a messy marriage it’s easy to feel that you and […]

Is God ‘Setting You Up’ for Something Better?

I love a good mystery. And I bet many of you are gobbling up great summer suspense novels while sipping tea poolside or taking in the latest suspense movie while downing lots of buttery popcorn. What fun! But I’m here to tell you about a suspenseful story that I read recently … It’s found in […]