Have a ‘Scary Good’ Marriage? And Linkup!

It’s seems crazy to think about it, but the characters, as well as, the audience that clamors for more of the movie 50 Shades of Grey are really seeking the “scary good” that can only be experienced through the deep intimacy of a committed and safe marriage. God’s intimacy with us is represented by the […]

What ’50 Shades’ Reveals about Your Marriage and WW Linkup!

I’m amazed at all the hype surrounding 50 Shades of Grey. Our country and probably the world is celebrating the release of this movie in more “shades” than I can count. I haven’t seen a lot of talk on the news or TV about the backlash this movie is creating, but I see it in […]

Amends – What Do They Look Like?

I’m returning to our series on forgiveness this week by highlighting how to make amends, as well as, how to determine if the amends are being fulfilled. I’m taking much of what I’m going to discuss from Beyond Boundaries—a great book for anyone seeking to rebuild a damaged relationship and it’s currently bargain priced for […]

6 Steps to Effective Boundary Conversations

Today I will be continuing in our series on forgiveness, addressing what is needed to communicate clear and effective boundaries when rebuilding a wounded relationship. Step 1 Determine if you both are ready for the boundary conversation. Look for clear evidence of a heart change in the other {not perfection, mind you!} before you make […]

The Support Needed to Trust Again

Reconciliation is about rebuilding trust because … [Tweet “Trust cannot be given like love or forgiveness. Trust must be earned. “] And trust is earned and established through respect and compliance with healthy boundaries and new ways of relating. So the first job for the two parties is to … Determine what you should require […]

Fear the Impact of Others?

Isaiah 46:4-5 and 9 (hover over to view verses) Thoughts taken from my devotional time. Today I want to look at another concern that we get caught up in life and in marriage … the fear that others can thwart God’s good purposes in our lives. There are so many people in our lives {and […]

Feeling Broken by Your Offender?

When our hearts are broken by the sins of our offender—especially over and over—we typically want to do two things … 1. Hurt our offender the way they’ve hurt us. We might say this is simply to teach them a lesson—so they won’t hurt us or others again. Maybe there’s a grain of truth in […]

Desperate Marriage Myth #2 – People Cannot Change

Today we’re continuing on in our series, “Desperate Marriages” with the second common myth … People cannot change. Let’s use the example of a spouse getting caught in an affair. After you’ve threatened to divorce him, he straightens up and promises to cut all ties with the other woman. The false belief that “people cannot […]