Settling this Matter Matters

By His WoundsI spend a lot of time here at Messy Marriage giving practical helps and tools for dealing with the messes in marriage, but the bottom line is that none of that matters if you don’t settle one thing!

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If you’re a believer and you are struggling in your marriage, perhaps the most powerful thing you can do is make Christ the Lord of your life and situation.

There’s resurrection power in making Him the Lord of …

  • Your conflicts by yielding to Him and His ways in the heat of the moment.
  • Your unmet longings by letting Him, your One true Love, fill up what your spouse cannot.
  • Your fear of abandonment by surrendering that at the feet of a Savior who will never leave you.
  • Your unchanging and often discouraging marriage and situation by letting God transform “you.”

And if you have never received Christ’s gift of forgiveness and salvation, then consider making that commitment on this most momentous weekend—Easter! There is resurrection power available to us whenever you and I make Christ our Lord and Savior! Death no longer is our master and our lives are made so much more rich and abundant through His grace.

[Tweet ““… I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” ~John 10:10b (NIV)”]

Click on my Know God page to read more about what making that decision means and involves.

So if you are experiencing a life and marriage that is less than satisfying, I pray that you would turn to the Lord for a hope that will not disappoint! 🙂

“Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we boast in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.” ~Rom. 5:1-5


If you’re a believer: what has making Christ your Lord done for your life and marriage?


If you’re not a believer: what hinders you from making that commitment?


Consider yourself invited to a Bible study of 1st Samuel that I will be hosting through a private Facebook group beginning next week on April 3, 2016. If you’d like to be added to this group, you’ll need to FB friend me at Beth Oster Steffaniak and then request that I add you. The group is currently forming, so don’t miss out on this incredible opportunity!

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  • Fortunately our Great God kept my marriage intact as both my husband and I navigated challenges and learned from mistakes! Blessings to you this Easter!

  • This is such key advice, and even though we’ve been married forty years, I still need to be reminded of this points often.

  • rboerner

    If it weren’t for Jesus, I would have walked out on my marriage years ago. So grateful for His amazing grace in my life! Happy Easter!

  • Andrew Budek-Schmeisser

    Great post, Beth, and absolutely right. Would say more of my own experience but too ill to formulate comment, apologies.

    He Is Risen.

  • I can’t even begin to express how true I think your words are today!

  • yes, yes, Beth. no matter what our writing emphasis, our storylines, our faith stands as the foundation for any creative wisdom that flows …

  • Hi Beth! What an awesome reminder this was (and still is) to everyone. I saw it as I was running out of the door to church. No matter could ever be as important. I gave my heart to Christ at 16 and I have never regretted for a single moment. The Lord is so good. He saved my marriage and made me a better mom. Basically, had it not been for the Lord, I would one seriously messed up sinner . . . now I’m a sinner saved by grace! Yee Haw!!

  • How wonderful to encourage us to make Christ the Lord of our situations, whatever they are. Thank you Beth.