Words that Transform Our Marriages

It’s interesting that the challenge this week on Faith Barista is to finish this sentence “In God’s Heart, I am …”

… because I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately.
I’ve been thinking about it, first of all, because I need to internalize how God feels about me. I don’t always feel “loved by God,” even though I know this to be true. I know that it will take meditating on that truth so that I can scrape away the peeling wallpaper of lies that still covers the walls of my heart and mind. 
The second reason I’ve thought about this lately is due to something I heard at the AACC* convention I went to recently. One of the classes I attended was led by Greg Smalley and he talked about reminding ourselves that our spouse is a child of God. He said if we do that we will treat our spouses as the valuable treasures they are in Christ.
That gave me an idea.
I decided to print out certain Bible verses that reminded me of my value in God’s eyes, as well as, my husband’s value in God’s eyes. I have posted these verses in various places to read over daily and remember just how precious we both are to God. And when we pray together daily, we also read the verses to each other (I read a verse and then Gary reads the next verse and so on). This sets the tone for our day together or apart.
My favorite is Zephaniah 3:17. That verse tells me that God loves me (and you) so much that He sings over me (us)! Wow! What a mind-blowing concept!
Now, I’ve already seen the power that prayer has had on my marriage. But I also want to see how the power of speaking and meditating on God’s Word—His truth—will impact my life and marriage.
If I am reminded how valuable my husband is to God, I will feel compelled to treat him as the treasure he is to God. And equally, if I realize and remind myself of my value to God, I will behave in a way that is in keeping with my beloved position in Christ.
It’s the transformation of my mind that transforms my marriage.
I want to share these Bible verses with you, as well. Even if your spouse won’t read over these or recite them with you daily, you can meditate on them daily for your own sense of comfort and encouragement.
Here’s how it works: simply click on this link – “God’s Love” and you’ll find a Word document to save to your own files. I’m sharing a Word document instead of a PDF, so that you can personalize the verses for yourself and your spouse. The document has two pages formatted into two columns. The first page can be used as a half-sheet that you can hang in a conspicuous spot somewhere. The second sheet can be cut out and glued to index cards for you and your spouse to carry with you.  
So my answer to the question is based upon God’s Word and what He tells me is true. Now I just need to internalize that truth!
“In God’s Heart, I am … loved so much by God that he sings over me!
The Lord your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing.” Zephaniah 3:17 (NIV)

*American Association of Christian Counselors
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  1. What a great reminder. Thanks for your thoughts. Bless you.

  2. Yes! I love the reminder that our husbands are children of God, which will help us treat them like the treasures they are. Your idea of printing the Bible verses is an excellent one, too.

    I’m also with you on trying to internalize the truth. I often have a wide gap between what I know is true and what I feel. I have learned that I can’t trust my feelings, but I hope to reach the point where that gap isn’t so wide!

  3. “It’s the transformation of my mind that transforms my marriage.”

    These are powerful thoughts. I so appreciate you sharing your verses too. I downloaded them already. Thank you!

  4. messymarriage says:

    Loved your post too! And you’re welcome about the verses. I love being able to share “goodies” with others! I hope it encourages you in your marriage, Lisa!

  5. messymarriage says:

    Thanks so much for stopping by, Melissa! Let’s work on this “gap thing” together! 🙂

  6. messymarriage says:

    You’re welcome, Kath. Thanks for stopping by!

  7. What a great idea printing out those truths and having them.

  8. i think this is one of my favorite posts of yours. it helps me to remember my spouse was once a little boy… and then it breaks me, to realize how i’ve hurt him in so many ways… pray for me in this? love you friend.

  9. finding_the_beauty says:

    Yes, speaking truth over our marriage will lead to transformation. Thank you for this!

  10. briantmiller says:

    keep reading those again and again and you will internalize it for sure…thanks for the resource as well…

  11. Having grown up in an angry marriage, I swore my marriage wouldn’t follow that example. From the beginning we gave our marriage to God as new believers and we don’t yell. :o) We discuss at times, but yelling had been banned since day 1.

  12. messymarriage says:

    Thanks for stopping by, Brian!

  13. messymarriage says:

    You’re welcome. Thanks for stopping by!

  14. messymarriage says:

    Congrats on your commitment to such a worthy cause, Nikole! And for those who don’t make or keep that commitment, I hope that this is a place where they can find support and help! Thanks for stopping by!

  15. This is wonderful. Reading together. Reciting together. Beautiful. This verse is on our post as well today and one other so far. God is really speaking this truth into me the last few days. I’m so thankful you wrote on it.

    I’m going to implement the practice of finding how God sees my husband and write those down too. Thank You Beth.